Our days are filled with laughter. When my kids aren’t trying to be funny they are hilarious. They just have great timing and an arsenal of factoids that get dropped at the most opportune moments. When they are trying to be funny it really just ends up being silly or annoying; however, their organic commentary to life unfolding conjurs up sit-com material. While it is clear that giftedness equates to superior cognitive abilities, it also comes with a whole host of other unexpected qualities. One of the most delightful perks of raising gifted children is their sparkling wit and offbeat sense of humor. Intellectual sarcasm and zany one liners are the social currency in this house of gifted outliers. The second most enjoyable and unnerving aspect of the gifted child is their love of argument. I was an avid arguer as a child and it has stayed with me throughout my life. Most people understand this as one of my many charms along with my passionate fervor for whatever I am consumed with at the moment. It used to infuriate my mother. She just assumed I would say something contrarian regardless of the topic. The same is true for my firstborn. He argues about anything and everything all day. Sometimes I get into the joy of sparring with my child but other times I am left a mentally drained casualty of a drive-by diatribe on the pitfalls of the militant third wave feminists who are controlling Tumblr and Twitter. It is exhausting.
Part of the gifted intellect’s arsenal is the ability to see the abstract and make connections between seemingly unrelated topics. Almost everything can become humorous when your mind is constantly active and your knowledge base has both depth and breadth. With a wide variety of interests and constant research, the associations verbalized are both timely and relevant. Timing matters in comedy and off-beat, deadpan delivery of quick quips is the preferred method of discourse in our family. My children have known and appreciated sarcasm since they were babies and they are quick to appreciate irony. Funniness is always on the menu. Observational comedy and the ever awkward physical comedy are the go to style for releasing intellectual and psychomotor overexcitabilities. These kids are always on and the wheels are turning until their heads hit the pillow.
Every day we engage in heated debates about virtually everything with humor woven in between. It is just our nature. If I walk into the room where my child is, I better be ready to discuss some current event, politics, technology trend, human rights, animal rights, disease, ethical veganism, feminism, racism, global warming or the go to default discussion of 4k blu ray technology. The discussions are informative but I don’t stand a chance with my kid. He is just too well informed. He is not only thoroughly educated about all his favorite subjects but he is also well researched about anything remotely related to it and all relevant counter arguments. His favorite past time is to point out and name the logical fallacies that I employ when attempting to argue with him. Sometimes we just infuriate each other but there is certainly never a dull moment. He keeps me on my toes and continues to show me who I was as a child and highlights who I am today.
Me: “Good morning angel.”
Liam: “There is no rape culture. I can thoroughly debunk it if you like.”
Me: “We’re doing this now? Yes, there is rape culture.”
Liam: “So what you mean is that there is a culture, a major part of our society that not only supports but encourages and praises rape. I think that couldn’t be further from the truth. Look, there are so many cases of false reporting where women are just believed and the feminists are the ones supporting this because they think women should be instantly believed and men are guilty until proven innocent…which, if you look. when women actually are believed without any evidence the men are often innocent. There are instances where women claim rape just to get back at men and innocent men spend time in jail but women who falsely accuse men don’t really get punished. Women are more likely to get breast cancer than be raped or molested. Also, if you include all men and women, then men get raped more when you factor in incarcerated men. I don’t understand why people like to discount male rape in prison. I guess it’s because they are criminals and it goes against what the feminists want the statistics to be. I hope you enjoyed this verbal onslaught.”
This is a typical morning greeting for me. This kind of rhetoric just gets thrust into my face all throughout the day. The topics evolve but the fervor remains. I need to read up on rape culture and third wave feminism before I get into the ring with this heavyweight orator.
I often observe parents complaining about their kids constant arguing, defiance and non-compliance. We seem to have lost sight of the benefits and skill that the art of argument and expression of strong opinions offer. It isn’t valued much in polite society and adults certainly don’t enjoy children who are constantly pointing out the inconsistencies that surface in everyday life. I relish my kids’ argumentative skills and their confidence in expressing their candid opinions whether oppositional to mine or the status quo.
As a family unit, we enjoy examining and dismantling prevalent thinking then discussing all the sides. We argue for sport. There are no topics off limit and even if I want some quiet time, it isn’t going to happen with my kidlets around. It is part nature, part nurture and simply our way of life. My husband enjoys this experience less than I but it is unavoidable so I better be prepared to join in or take the verbal lashing like a deer in headlights.
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