Bullying is about control. A power dynamic that is modeled and learned and it dominates mainstream culture. Traditional parenting protocols rely on an authoritarian paradigm. Abuse of power is the social currency in school. Adults bully children. Children bully each other and everyone is bullied by the system. It starts at the top and trickles down through teachers and onto the students. The culture of bullying is embodied within a schooling mindset.
We have removed ourself from this barbaric culture that glorifies an imbalance of power. Coercion is non existent in our life. It’s a relic. Something both lost and forgotten. We don’t encounter bullying much nor would we tolerate it for very long before speaking our mind and then fleeing the scene as we venture onto greater pursuits. We are a mindful crew.
Mainstream culture accepts bullying in the home, school and work place. It is considered a normal and acceptable part of life. A rite of passage, of sorts. Most children and adults accept control and abuse of power as something that strengthens character. This sentiment is fostered within most schooling environments and in many family and work dynamics. What a low view of humanity to think we all need to be abused verbally, physically and/or psychologically in order to develop an identity. The toughen up and get used to maltreatment now as preparation for a hard life ahead of you mindset is pervasive in conventional thinking.
Parents sign their children up for a dose of bullying and oppression at their local public school where freewill is traded in for free day-care. Our society embraces subduing children into compliance as an acceptable practice. Children are well versed in the role of innocent victim habituated to bullying at the hands of their care givers. We see parents who tell their children what to do and punish them when they fail to comply. Those that rebel get disciplined for trying to assert their freedom. Children experience discrimination and a lack of civil rights, daily. School ensures this. Religion has stories about it. Mainstream parenting supports it. Children are to be well behaved and do as they’re told.
Freedom shouldn’t be such a rare commodity for children.
Bullying is the acceptable cultural zeitgeist and children are the easy targets. We demonize the bully on the playground but tolerate the parent or teacher who intimidates the child. We are responsible for perpetuating this culture with our tacit compliance. There are numerous parenting books that lay out tips and tricks to get your kids to do what you want. Coercion, bribing and punishment are all tools of the trade. Mainstream parenting is rooted in a do-as-you-are-told mentality. These mainstream parenting books reinforce the culture of bullying. It starts in the home and is exploited in school. There are few books which describe fostering mutual respect, equality, freedom and independent thinking as a preferable way of parenting children. No wonder so many children are anxious, stressed and depressed. They are prisoners in their own home and at school.
Mainstream parenting and school cultivate an environment where dominating a child is normal and acceptable. There is a more enlightened way of approaching parenting and education. Children are capable of self-government and should be free from authoritarian control. Within a radical unschooling lifestyle children and adults live freely, in partnership with one another, within a supportive, loving and nurturing environment. Healthy living doesn’t elicit a bullying mindset. A peaceful environment, infused with mindfulness and acceptance will create self-aware, compassionate, dignified humans capable of treating others with kindness and respect.
Free your kids. Free your mind.
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